Because there is a high chance of getting pressurized this season, this is how to handle the pressure to 'do pass yourself' this Valentine. Valentine is coming, and Instagram relationship people have sworn to all the gods and deities they know that they must fill your timeline with luxurious gift unboxings—iPhones, designer bags, Rolex watches, cars with red bows, and that one person even receiving proof of ownership for a plot of land. LAND fam.
Meanwhile, there's you, calculating if your budget will allow for suya and yoghurt. Remember, you are not in their relationship. You don't need to post money bouquets or vacations on one small tropical island to know that you're in a loving relationship.
The pressure is getting werser, and before you know it, you’re stressing. You’re wondering if your relationship is real because your partner didn’t surprise you with a private jet. Should you break up? Should you start trading crypto and forex to fund a last-minute grand gesture? Is love even real if there’s no “She said she wanted an iPhone 15, so I got her 15 iPhones” tweet attached?
Babes breathe.
Before you make financially and emotionally irresponsible decisions, let’s talk about how To Handle The Pressure To Do Pass Yourself This Valentine.
Because, believe it or not, there’s a way to make it special without reenacting a Davido and Chioma proposal on your minimalist budget.
Instagram is a Scam (But You Knew That Already)
Social media is basically a movie trailer—curated, edited, and more often than not exaggerated for views and likes. You don’t see the fights, the awkward “Thank you, but this isn't what I wanted” reactions or the couple starts arguing after that fancy dinner. You just see the sparks and believe that their relationship is the best in the world.
Remember, your relationship isn’t defined by the gifts given in one viral moment, but by the consistency, understanding, and love shared daily. And those influencer couples you're using to compare yourself? They're breaking up next week cuz their partner cheated on them with their best friend—stay focused.
Know Your Financial Lane (And Stay in It)
You’re not Dangote. You’re not even Dangote in your village who owns a filling station. You’re a student or a fresh graduate figuring life out, and that’s fine. If you’re still thinking twice before entering a Keke because of the new fare, that’s a clear sign that a Range Rover surprise is not in your ministry this year, and that's ok.
Instead of burning money to impress, plan something within your means. A thoughtful gift, a home-cooked dinner, or even a well-written letter (yes, people still like them). If your partner loves and respects you, they won’t expect you to buy them a yacht while your bank balance cries for help.
If They Want a Rolls Royce but You’re Budgeting for Bolt
If your partner is expecting grand gestures beyond your capacity, let’s be honest, the real problem is not Valentine’s Day; it’s the entire relationship—thrash it. A reasonable person will understand that love isn’t measured in price tags. Talk about expectations and agree on what’s realistic for both of you. Maybe you both decide to do something lowkey. Maybe you both decide to exchange small gifts. Maybe you both decide to spend the day watching movies and eating Indomie in peace. Whatever it is, just make sure you’re on the same page.
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Get Creative with Your Celebration
You don’t need to book dinner at Talindo Steak House just to prove a point. There are plenty of ways to make the day special without financial trauma. Some ideas:
- DIY Date Night: Order or make your favourite food, set up fairy lights, and watch rom-coms or the football match (because, let’s be honest, some of you’d rather watch the Premier League instead of The Notebook).
- Memory Lane Gift: Write a letter, make a photo album, or compile a playlist of “your songs.” Sentimental gifts win every time.
- Experience Over Expense: Do something fun together that doesn’t require selling your kidney—go for a picnic, visit a museum, take a long walk and have deep convos. It’s the thought that counts.
Valentine’s Day is Not a Relationship Exam
Nobody is grading you. You won’t be expelled from Relationship University because your partner didn’t buy you land on the moon. Valentine’s Day is nice, but it’s just one day. If your partner treats you well all year round, what’s one day of performing for the timeline?
Meanwhile, some of your faves will be having fights on February 15. Don’t let the pressure deceive you.
Your Relationship Isn’t in a Competition—Relax
It's safe to say that comparison is the fastest way to ruin something good. That couple in Dubai? They have problems, too. That influencer who got a Birkin? She might have sent it to herself for views; people aren't always what they seem online.
That guy who bought his girl a new car? He might be repaying for the emotional damage he caused last week. You never know what’s real.
Focus on your own relationship. If you and your partner are happy, that’s what matters. You don’t need an Instagram-worthy Valentine’s to prove that.
If You’re Single, Enjoy the Freedom
For single people feeling left out, first of all, freedom is sweet. No pressure, no forced gift-buying, and no fake surprises for content. While couples are breaking their bank accounts, you can enjoy your day in peace. Treat yourself, hang out with friends, or just relax without stress. The love of your life will find you when it’s time. Until then, love yourself.
Conclusion
So, before you start contemplating selling a kidney to fund Valentine’s Day, remember—love isn’t measured in grand gestures or overpriced gifts. It’s in the everyday moments, the inside jokes, and the shared understanding that your relationship doesn’t need an audience to be valid.
So this Valentine, do what you can with what you have and where you are. And if anybody asks why you didn’t “do more,” tell them the economy is not smiling, and neither are you.
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How to Handle the Pressure to ‘Do Pass Yourself’ This Valentine
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